Sex Talk: 3 rules to safe intercourse

Regina Squeri
Thu, 12 Nov 2015 01:33:38 +0000
Campus, anal sex, lubricant, sex, sex talk

The wait is over. The time has come … for me to discuss proper anal technique.

This goes out to everyone who participates in this form of intercourse – I’m talking men, women, nonbinary, etc.

My main concern with writing this is safety. First of all, although you cannot get pregnant during anal sex, you can contract sexually transmitted infections. In fact, studies show that you are more likely to spread something this way if unprotected. According to Health.com, it is “considered the riskiest activity for sexually transmitted diseases,” which brings us to our first rule:

1. ?????Wear a condom.

Side note: if you and your partner are using your hands, consider using a glove, since some STIs can also be transmitted through hand contact.

If you are having anal sex, there is another thing you will need, which brings us right to our second rule.

2. ?????Use lube.

I will repeat that again – use lubricant. Make sure it isn’t oil based, and use a lot of it. Use more than you think you will need. The most common complaint regarding anal penetration is that it hurts, but it won’t hurt if enough lubricant is applied. Also, it’s probably a good idea to continue applying lube throughout, especially if it is your first time.

The third and final rule is…

3. ?????Go slow.

Seriously. Take your time. If it is painful, stop and try again later. It will also help if the person will be doing the penetrating fingers their partner before beginning.

For those who are used to vaginal penetration, anal sex will be quite different – but it should not be painful. If it is, try using more lube and going slower. However, if you think that it will not feel good or you just have your doubts in general, it is your partner’s job to respect your boundaries and make you feel safe.

Important: Some of you may be wondering, since it is anal sex, if poo will be involved. The answer is yes, it is possible for poo to be involved. It depends on a lot of things, primarily when you last ate or your last bowel movement.